Can you really love someone?

Can you really love someone for who they are? When they are out with friends, are you brewing madness because they are not with you? Can you love someone for who they are when you go mad if they compliment someone?

 

Can you love someone without conforming them into what you want? Can you love someone who isn’t what you actually desired in the perfect person?

 

Can you be happy and loving with someone with all their faults? All the little itty bitty things they do that can drive you up the wall? Can you love someone still, after they have hurt you? Can you love someone to let your ego go, and be able to cater to what they want?

 

Can you love someone when they are broke and cannot support you?

 

Maybe another question to ask is…

 

Is it love??

 

Is it love to rage over someone?

Is it love control everything a person does, so they are not themselves?

Is it love to make them do things just for your pleasure only, but forget about them?

Is it love when you say “You own them”?

Is it love when you can not forgive them?

 

I had a dream that I found myself finding out what is true love. I look upon my grandmother who was married to the same man until he died, and I realized most people today, mistake so much as love. We can feel things for people, but to truly let go of ourselves to make sure others are taken care of, is one of the hardest things possible to do. We get so stuck in “My needs, My wants, My desires” we want them to be what we want as if we can customize the person to fit us, but we are forgetting, this is another person with different desires, pursuits, and dreams. To love them would to actually love every part of them, even the ones that not fit what we wanted.

 

We do not own them, but love them. We do not cast them aside but help them with their dreams, and vice versa. There’s so many divorces and break ups, it seems like now a days if you don’t like one thing about a person you say fuck it, on to the next one, instead of working things out with people and moving on to make things stronger. More so as well because we mistake lust for love.  It’s hard to tell the difference now a days when everything is so rushed. I hope one day we can go back to the days where more people can learn to love and work things out… and to just be able to love.