Bride’s Lesson

I walked into a room where a bride sat with the man she was going to marry. She said how happy she was to be with him, and he sat there smiling at her. He was truly in love with her, and I knew he loved her for good and bad. When I looked at her, I could tell she didn’t understand how deep his love was for her, and it upset me to no end. I walked up to her, because I knew I had to say something about this, I could not let it go.

 

That man there loves you. You might not understand but I hope you do, before you break his heart. Love isn’t how someone makes you feel, you can’t just say fuck it because he hurt you once. Love is when you can say I love you after all that mess, and you can put yourself together to work it out to make you as well as him stronger.

You want to know the true test of love, then this is it… You saying “I do” is saying I am taking on this test. This isn’t some kind of game where you are playing "house”, this is someone’s life who they are saying they want to share with you forever. This is where they are telling EVERYBODY, the universe, god, ifa, etc. that you truly love this person with all their faults.

If you don’t like their faults, then tough, it’s apart of who they are. If you can’t handle it then you shouldn’t even bother getting married or even being with them, because you can’t go outside your own comfort zone to love a person for who they truly are. Like I said before, love isn’t about how they make you feel, it’s about loving a person for who they truly are, good or bad. To make sure they are okay and have comfort, and in return, they give you the comfort you need and you are taken care for.

This is truly a two way street, so if you are keep going this one way, then you’ll end up miserable for the rest of your life, and you will hurt him. So I will tell you truthfully don’t fuck this up.

The bride looked at me shockingly but she understood where I was coming from. This wasn’t her first time marrying and she knew she’s been running through men so much before. I walked away from her, because I didn’t want to know later how she hurt him, if she choose to keep it as a high school game.